The North Star and the Compass

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Everything we did to prepare A- for my dad dying
And how A- seemed to grieve with the tools we gave him
NYC and schools and inclusion and disinformation and fascism.
And why liberals benefit from perpetuating a myth of inclusion.
On the ableism of “a good fit”.
And power
Gestalts being complex communication with layer after layer of context and meaning
With a multi-modal example
The reality of disabled student segregation in NYC
They don't actually care what someone needs
The cost of being disabled
The parent / family phase of life
More on language changing our relationship to feelings.
Why only A- seems to be living his grief in an embodied way
More thoughts on PDA and the intersection of privilege.
It's not "low demand" parenting for us. It's just.... parenting.
It's not about ABA. It's not a checklist. It's about the work of being anti-ableist.
I don't write about ABA stuff on my blog.
IT'S NOT INCLUSIVE
And it's dehumanizing!!
All we concluded is A- is beautiful.
Light versus survival
On the impact of normalizing grief.
CW: Ableism and transphobia
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